Most men die with their dreams still inside them.
A brotherhood for men who want to stop coasting and finally start building a life that means something.
want to join us?
Watch this first, then read more, join, or book a call to ask me questions.
Cheers.
Anthony
Director of The Network
the painful truth
It’s gut-wrenching to think about but…
So many men will leave this world with their best ideas…
…their biggest dreams…
…and their true potential still locked inside them.
They’ll go to the grave with unfinished business…
…not because they couldn’t do it…
…but because they never fucking tried.
Every man promises himself he’ll change “one day.”
But most never do.
And your wife, kids, and the man in the mirror, pay the price.
Worst of all, your elderly parents are quietly disappointed in what you’ve become.
The son who never truly succeeded in anything other than wasting his early potential.
Ouch.
And yet…It’s bloody easy to look successful on the outside.
Nice house, decent career, loving family, luxury holidays…
…all while quietly pissed off with the bloke staring back at you in the bathroom mirror every night…
…as you rub your tired face and notice another grey hair.
So you numb the feeling.
Fuck it.
Work harder.
Scroll other peoples lives for longer.
Drink more.
Bury it under silent coping mechanisms.
Watching an embarrassing amount of sport, wanking…
…or losing yourself in childish Netflix binges.
You lie to yourself “this is just life.”
But you can’t fool yourself for ever.
Because in the quiet moments you hear that voice…
…in the depths of your minds that says…
…‘For fucks sake stop it, and sort yourself out’.
And what you’ve got?
It’s not the life you wanted to live.
It’s existing in a way that nobody else knows what’s going on in your head.
And it hurts to hear it, but, existing is the slowest form of dying.
Why you feel like this
Carl Jung said, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
What that really means is:
Most men never become the man they know they could be.
You work on goals assigned to you…
…and tick the boxes society offered.
And then you realise the inner fire and drive is long gone.
You’ve stopped growing.
Stopped building.
James Hollis calls it “the middle passage”…
…that moment where the old map of your life doesn’t work anymore.
What used to motivate you doesn’t light you up now.
And because you haven’t drawn a new map yet, you drift.
That’s why you feel restless, even though you’ve got “a good life.”
That’s why you lie awake as the clock ticks midnight…
…thinking, “Is this really it?”
Ignore that call and you’re fucked, because here’s what happens:
Your wife gets sick of hearing promises you never keep.
Your kids grow up copying the half-arsed example you’ve set.
Your mates stay comfortable, while you rot inside pretending you’re fine.
That’s what regret looks like.
Why your network Matters Now More Than Ever
I know what regret looks like, because I lived it.
I had a job in the City earning six-figures.
The smart 3-storey town-house.
Dinner at the best restaurants in Europe.
A brand new BMW Z4 convertible.
Holidays to Dubai, Miami, and Ibiza.
Elite fitness and a medal from the OCR World Championships in America.
A beautiful and loving girlfriend.
A solid best friend, and a great social life…
…and I still felt empty.
Living the quiet life of desperation.
Others will wonder ‘How the fuck is that possible?’
Well, I know, and you know…
I was drifting. Coasting.
Going through the motions.
Living the Groundhog Day on repeat.
And here’s what I learned very quickly:
Nothing changes until you decide to change it.
Here’s what else astounded me:
I’m now 47, but as I hit 40, I realised something depressing:
Finding men who were truly hungry for more was rare.
I wanted a life that felt fucking exciting.
Made you get out of bed and look forward to the week ahead.
Full of energy, progress, success, and excitement.
But most of the guys around me?
They were more interested in watching Sky Sports…
…moaning about the weather…
…and talking like their lives were set in stone.
Happy to coast and repeat the same week for the next 30 bloody years.
No. Thank. You.
That was never going to be me.
I wanted to build something.
To raise my 3 kids well.
Get in shape, make serious money…
…and experience more from life.
To win – and enjoy the ride while doing it.
After leading Whole Man Academy for several years…
…and interviewing over 100 high-performing men…
…one thing became crystal clear:
I wasn’t the only one feeling this way.
That’s why I built The Network in 2023.
To give men like you a line in the sand.
To surround you with solid blokes who won’t let you coast.
To push you when you lose motivation, and help you when life hits hard.
Because when you change your trajectory, everything changes with it.
Your wife feels it.
Your kids see it.
Your family respects it.
People notice a change.
‘What the fucks he been taking?’ they wonder.
And most importantly — you finally respect yourself again.
That’s what happens when you surround yourself with solid men who push you to raise your standards.
Because the men who join The Network?
Like Chris, Tom, Phil, Alan, Dan, Craig, James, Ansh, Mike, etc…
They’re not just here for themselves.
They’re here to be better fathers or better leaders.
Better men.
And they know they can’t do it alone.
They all know it’s not just a group.
It’s a place to remember who you are – and who you’re meant to be.
If that hits something in your gut…
Come and join us.
Why do men join?
Most of the men who join The Network aren’t failing in life.
They haven’t hit rock bottom or anything like that.
On paper they’re doing great, until you look deeper.
They are successful yet unfulfilled…
…and found themselves in The Gap.
The grey area between the life you live and the life you desperately want.
And they’re just fucking sick of playing small.
I hear this all the time:
“I know I’ve achieved a lot, but I don’t feel like I’m where I should be.”
“My mates are good lads, but they’re happy coasting. I need to be around men who actually push me.”
“I say I’ll change things, but nothing sticks. I need structure and accountability too get my shit together..”
“I want to look in the mirror not be pissed off with the man staring back.”
Sound familiar?
Then you already know you belong here.
what changes when you join?
This isn’t about just talking and feeling nice.
It’s about taking action and changing your Trajectory.
When you step inside The Network:
You get your energy back — no more dragging yourself out of bed and lying about being “knackered all the time.”
You build strength in your body and resilience in your head.
You stop drifting and finally take control of your week, your actions, and your life.
You stop being the bloke who “used to” and become the bloke who is.
You become the man your family can count on, not the one who keeps promising but never follows through and senses their disappointment.
what’s inside?
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In-depth private session with me to analyse your life and work on a plan to improve quickly.
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One short mission each month to improve important areas of life. Energy. Sleep. Money. Marriage. Strength. Resilience. Direction. Connection. Legacy.
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Join me and the other members…
We’ll look at where you are, where you want to be, and plan exactly what you need to do to get there.
I’ll answer you questions...
Help you stay focused and motivated.
I’ll give you the kick up the arse you need, if you need it.
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Plan your week on Monday, and Evaluate your week on Friday
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You’ll get access to a growing Library of interviews with Elite Insiders.
Be inspired by men who have specialist knowledge in an area that matters to you most.
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Connect and collaborate with all the other guys who have joined that want to live a great life. All via a super cool and easy to use platform called Skool. It’s distraction free an opens a door to a world of possibilities. All your courses, zoom links, events, and conversation are within this platform.
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Get Free access to our $97 course that will help you improve your morning routine, sleep, fitness, diet, mindset, confidence, testosterone, relationships, and more. Plus more micro-courses coming soon in 2025.
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There’s nothing like getting around other men for a dinner, a full day, or even a weekend. I’ve been hosting events since 2018 in London, the Cotswolds, and Winchester. You will get access and first dibs on tickets to events to connect and have a bloody good laugh with the other guys in The Network.
time to join, now.
Deep down, you know you’re capable of more.
So here’s the question: where will you be a year from now?
Because if you don’t join, you know exactly what happens.
You’ll go back to your routine.
You’ll keep breaking promises to yourself.
Your wife will keep losing respect for you, even if she doesn’t say it.
Your kids will grow up copying the weak example you’ve set.
And you’ll keep staring at the ceiling at night, knowing you’re wasting your potential.
That’s how regret is built — slowly, day by day.
But here’s the other path:
You join The Network.
Stop bloody coasting.
Show up, do the work, start improving.
You build momentum, strength, clarity, and direction.
And a year from now, you look back and say…
…“That was the moment everything changed.”
It’s only $47 (£35) a month. That’s all.
One decision.
The next few years are going to pass anyway.
The only question is: will you drift through them and rot…
or will you finally start living the life you were meant to?
If you’re still unsure, email me directly:
📩 anthony@wholemanacademy.com
I’ll answer your questions and tell you straight if this is for you.
This isn’t for all men.
It’s for the ones who want more – and are ready to do something about it.
Let’s build something better, together.
Anthony Astbury
join solid men who want to win
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CHRIS OSCROFT
INNOVATOR, ENTREPRENEUR, BUSINESS OWNER
The chat with my brothers in the Network has been invaluable, hearing their similar journeys and challenges and how they deal with life in general has been a great sounding board.
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DAVID HUNTER
NHS AND AUTHOR
The Network has helped me become more focused with my attitude and intentions in life. I’m challenged when needed by an amazing group of guys. It’s helped focus on what I want out of life and what I need to work on.
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PETER BINNS
BUSINESS OWNER
I joined The Network to meet and learn from men who have different life experiences to me and to reciprocate.
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TOM
AEROSPACE, MILITARY AND CIVIL
Being part of The Network has helped me make new connections, helping me with motivation to find new job opportunities, making my life more fulfilling and giving me ideas on ways to help with the book I wrote.
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Baz Jobson
CREATIVE DIRECTOR - Bare Studios.
I joined The Network to connect with more men who are serious about their success and want to grow in life and in business.
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DAVID EVANS
FOUNDER @ KeepThemBuying
I’ve attended many events and retreats, and every single one has been a game-changer...providing renewed clarity, purpose, and drive.
It’s a powerful network of like-minded men....All driven to grow, support and push their own boundaries.
